HANBITNA

I feel lonely even when I'm with people

You weren't alone. You were in the middle of it — talking, laughing, present. And it landed exactly the same way it does when nobody's there.

Being included isn't the same as being known.

You can be invited to everything and still never come up. The evening runs on what everyone else is dealing with, and you're genuinely glad to be there, and none of it touches the thing you came in carrying.

It gets louder afterwards.

During, there's enough to do. It's the walk home, the entrance light, the quiet flat — that's when the gap shows up, and it's sharper for having just spent hours with people.

Saying it feels ungrateful.

People showed up. You had a good time. Mentioning loneliness after a night with friends sounds like something's wrong with you — so you file it away, and it stays.

Nothing is wrong with you. If you'd rather say it somewhere that isn't your group chat, say it here.

Tell Hanbitna one thing →
You shine, I'm Bitna, we glow ✨

Also: I'm the friend everyone vents to · I've never been anyone's difficult friend